Adoption ceremony

After a few postponements, we had our adoption ceremony on Tuesday morning. We brought the girls to Beautiful Gate for the first time since they joined our family, and it was interesting to see their reaction. They have really come out of their shells and begun talking English at home and they are pretty talkative. Once we got on campus, they got completely quiet and clung to my hands. They did not smile, laugh, talk or do anything but cling to me. The night before, I tried to explain what the ceremony was going to be like in order to prepare them, but I don't think they understood. They were scared. I have seen this response so many times in the past with other adoptive families so I cannot really say it caught me off guard, I just felt sad for them.
Our ceremony was great. Lots of singing, a few speeches, several jokes (from volunteers and staff since it was weird to do our roles for us as directors), a few tears, but mostly it was lighthearted. The girls cried when they had to go to their house mother and hear her words of good-bye. She also made it light hearted because she said she was happy they were going to our family since we have already adopted her into our family too. It was a very special day and we have some really great pictures from Grace, so we will always be able to look back and remember this great day.
At the end of the ceremony, the girls were way more relaxed and even began to smile a little and talk to a few people. They seemed to be relieved when the staff started heading back to their houses, but they were able to stay with us. They even played around with us a little in the chapel and became their normal selves again. What a big and scary day for them, but it all turned out nicely in the end. Elijah, Faith and Mercy also had a good time, a little bored during the speeches, but that is pretty normal. It was fun to see their relief too at having the final step in our adoption finished. It feels good to be finished with everything so we can just be a family. One month in and we are doing great. English is coming along, sibling friendships are forming, house rules are being learned, fun is happening, love is growing, and much, much more. There are some definite growing pains, but that is also to be expected. We have finished our month of cocooning and will begin slowly introducing Polita and Nthabeleng to our friends.

Yes, believe it or not, I even gave a speech!

Us with their house mother, Mme Judith.

Us with Terp and Tyler who did our roles in the ceremony.

Not a perfect family picture, but at least this time they don't look scared to death :)

Becoming family

My new schedule involves waking up sometime between 5:45 and 6:30am and I am pretty much crashing at 9pm. I feel like I have a new born again :) There have been some pretty amazing moments this week like when N wanted to go out and give daddy a hug when he got home from work, but then she chickened out when we got to him. The thought counted. We have a nightly routine that we have done since E was born and it has been so nice to get the girls involved in our routine. We read a bible story, pray and then we give a blessing over the kids. There is a part in the blessing where E,F, and M say a part and P and N have started saying it too. So awesome!!!! 2 nights ago when I tucked P and N into bed, they both initiated a hug and a kiss and then surprised me by saying they loved me. Wow, that is a pretty awesome thing to hear your daughters say.
Our journey has also been a bit rough this past week with some very unexpected issues. There are moments where as a parent, you really need to rely on God's wisdom and strength as you blend your family into one unit. But, I have found that there are far more moments where I just feel so blessed and thankful that I get to walk this journey. I have begun to really have feeling of complete love as I look at my sweet little girls, and they really are beginning to feel like they have always been a part of our family. I love the way God can mold and make families fit together and be close through His grace. It does not mean there won't be "growing pains" on both sides as we figure each other out, but it means that we will all be in this together loving and supporting each other as we live life together. I couldn't think of 6 other people I would love walking through life with than the ones God has blessed me with. I may be tired and a little scatter brained at times, but it is worth it :)

2 week update

It has been 2 weeks since we adopted. Overall, the adjustment has gone quite well. Elijah, Faith and Mercy are continuing on at the missionary school, and I have begun some preliminary homeschooling with Polita and Nthabeleng. It is good to have a routine, but I am a little bummed that we had missed so much school during furlough, so I couldn't have them stay home for a week or two just to get time to know their new sisters better. It is really neat to see some of their similarities as they get to know each other better. Polita and Mercy do not mind cold water for swimming, but Faith and Nthabeleng did not like the cold pool AT ALL!! Mercy, Polita and Nthabeleng really love the Buddy movies (5 golden retriever puppy movies and we have 4 of them). Elijah and I made some homemade play dough and all of them enjoy making things with play dough. Mercy is running a restaurant today and Polita and I are ordering food from her little menu! Good times!
We are figuring out health stuff as there have been fevers, a sore tummy and a skin rash in the last week with Polita and Nthabeleng. Having a language barrier makes a lot of things a guessing game, but we have managed our way through most of our problems. As sad as it is for them not to be feeling well, it is a good way to get some extra cuddle time. Although, I will like cuddling more when it isn't 95 degrees in my house. I went to the store for some different skin care products today as the skin rash has become quite annoying for my littlest one, and I hope it helps. I am trying to avoid Vaseline as I feel like it clogs pores, but we will see what her skin decides.
I enjoy my days with the girls, but I am also missing everyone at Beautiful Gate. I am their primary caregiver so I need to stay clear of BG for a while in order to help their bond grow with us as well as to help the older kids not get too jealous as they wait for the day they get adopted. Our adoption ceremony will be next Thursday, and so I will get to sneak back on campus for a day.
Tomorrow is Faith's 11th birthday, so we will be having a few friends over for a birthday party. I hope that having a birthday party for their sister will not overwhelm Polita and Nthabeleng. I imagine it will feel a bit strange to see her opening presents, but hopefully they will understand better once their birthdays come along. I got them both a tiny little gift so hopefully that helps, besides not seeing Elijah or Mercy get presents :) So I guess I am saying 2 weeks in and we are doing well, and they haven't fired me yet as a mother.

Family of 7

Well, I am pretty sure that you all know why I have not written in a week. Our lives have completely changed and we are settling in to a new routine. We are the luckiest family in the whole world to have been blessed with 2 amazing little girls. They have been great as they have tried to figure out how they fit into our family. They sleep well, eat well, and play well (beyond normal sibling stuff). We have had a few very heartbreaking moments with many tears or misunderstandings, but we also know that is totally normal. It helps for me to remind the kids how crazy it would be if they suddenly moved in with one of our staff. Yes, on the surface they know our staff, but to move in with them, eat their food, figure out their rules and such, it would be so hard. That makes us all a bit more compassionate, when we can walk a moment in their shoes.
We are on day 6, and I can tell you that today was the first day that we felt like a family. The girls have been really shy around Bryan and Elijah, but today felt more comfortable and less shy. I praise God for that! We played in the sprinkler, ate dinner outside, had some tickle fights, and then played soccer. We were all smiling and laughing and it felt sooooooo good. I know that our journey will have many ups and downs as we figure each other out, but today was a very good day and I thought since I have the energy, today would be a good day to write too!!! Sorry for those of you who have been dying to hear from me, but I have been going to sleep as soon as my last kid heads to bed so no writing. :)

Day two when Polita and Nthabeleng found new clothes and headbands to try on.

Day 4 We all had some fun running through the sprinkler together, YEAH!!!

Day 4 Nthabeleng will only go through water with a helper :)

Day 6 We had a great time playing soccer and Faith was so excited after each kick the girls made, she got them all excited. Enough that Polita let me through her in the air which is something she never let me do at BG!!!!

Day 6 Little does she know that Mommy is about to throw her in the air too, but I know she likes it ;)

The Secret is OUT!!!!!!

I am writing this today (Monday), but I will probably not be posting this until tomorrow. I have been keeping a VERY BIG secret for a long time and finally, I can share. We are adopting!!!!!!!!!!!!! We are going to be adopting 2 beautiful little girls ages 7 and 5, and they are joining our family this week. Our court order came out on November 24th while we were on furlough, and now that we are back, we get to be a family. I have been having a hard time not talking about it, so I feel like that may be one reason for less blog posts lately.


We have talked about adoption for many years, and after our last furlough, we spent more time praying about God's timing and plan. God surprised us with His answer and we are thrilled about opening our hearts and our home to two precious little girls. My kids are thrilled and one of the best parts is that they are already good friends because they live at Beautiful Gate.

We moved off campus last year to finalize things for our home study because we may not live on campus and adopt because it would cause too much confusion for the girls (I completely understand that rule). So we are going to be spending a lot of quality time together as a family of 7 for the next month in hopes of helping them feel welcome and loved by their new forever family. It is crazy to be writing that about myself this time instead of everyone else who has come through Beautiful Gate!


Elijah, Faith and Mercy have been amazing through this process, and we have had some amazing heart to heart conversations. We all know that there are good and hard things that will be coming our way as we get to know our daughters/sisters, and their hearts are very open. When asked about their biggest fears they have been saying things like being afraid of not being a good example or worrying about the girls not knowing God. At their age, I may have worried about not having my own space or having to share with siblings who might break my stuff :) They have been praying for their sisters for awhile now and the things they say brings tears to my eyes (I should write them down for the days when the 5 of them are making each other crazy, hahaha). I am so humbled that the Lord would allow me to be the mother of 5 kids (and honestly, a little afraid too), and I am looking forward to this next step in our family.
I remember rejoicing when a child was adopted because it was their last night as an orphan and I am rejoicing with my whole heart that I can make that dream come true for two children. I will get to tuck them in, sing them songs, play countless games of duck -duck -goose (their favorite currently), hold them when they cry because they miss their moms (biological and BG mom), teach them to swim, teach them to know God, hold their hand when they are scared, give them space when they push me away, but be there when they need me back, and so much more. God willing, these two precious girls will never be orphans again! This is the best, most exciting, and most terrifying week because this is when all the dreaming and imagining go away, and the real begins. Thank you friends and family for your faithful support, and for your continued prayers for us all as we transition into a family of 7!

Going home to Lesotho!

We leave tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!! Back to Lesotho!!!!! Yeah! So I am a little excited to get back to Beautiful Gate and see everyone in Lesotho again. I can't believe how much I miss everyone after only 9 weeks, but I do miss them. Sometimes I see posts from our volunteers and my heart actually hurts to be away from the kids and staff. They are such a part of our lives that it feels incomplete without them around. I know that we are really going to miss our friends and family here, but I am ready to get back (no offense to all of you, most of you know my heart and why I long to be back in Lesotho). I remember thinking that 5 years was going to be an eternity and now I am thinking that 2 years is going to FLY by. There is so much more I want to do, people I want to be with and hearts I want to touch before my time is up. I have this strange sense of urgency, and I want to make every moment count while I am there.


On Sunday, our church took some time and prayed over us. I felt so honored to be able to be sent as a representative of our church. So many friends and family support us and have put their trust in us and it is an honor (also a little scary at times because it is a BIG calling). At the end of the prayer time, Mercy took my hand and said, "I don't mean to brag Mommy, but I am so glad that our family was the one chosen to go to Lesotho." Wow, what a beautiful thing to say. There have been moments when you all read through my tears because I thought I may have ruined my kids by going to Lesotho. Then my sweet little 8 year old says she is so glad we were chosen by God to serve there. I am so humbled by that.


We gave our kids some fun little memories while we were in MI, but it will be the 7 years they spent in Lesotho that will change their lives and their perspectives forever. God is so good and He is doing amazing things. We are as ready as we can be for our next adventure Lord!!

Family time

Our timing for being home was perfect and it is hard to believe that it is almost to a close. 2 months flies by in a blink and there are still so many friends that I did not get to see. On the positive side, we have spent a lot of time with our families, and that has been very refreshing. Late night games and movies, watching the kids dance with their cousins, watching football, bowling, laser tag, eating big holiday meals, and just talking about life. My parents came up for 9 days and I even got to be a part of a small family reunion at my aunt and uncles house. Sometimes, it is like we really haven't been gone for a long time in the way it is so easy to catch up. Bryan's extended family got together for a fun day of bowling and catching up as well, and it was good. We are both very lucky to have such great family whom we enjoy being with.
We were also reminded in these past weeks how quickly all of it can be stripped away. Bryan's dad made it through cancer treatments and was having some ulcer problems when we arrived home on furlough, and then he had a heart attack which caught us all unawares. Thankfully, he got the help and care he needed at the hospital and had a stint put in. Unfortunately, that was not enough, so he had open heart surgery a week later. Wow, we are so fortunate for modern medicine. I do not think he would still be with us if we were living in Lesotho. I feel that I will always compare medical things between the US and Lesotho because I always fear for my Basotho friends when they need specific medical attention, since it may not be available. Or the one doctor who knows how to do the procedure is on a holiday. Our time here was a blessing and dad is recovering well. I am thankful for good medical care and also for good dental care (I had some cavities filled, had a root canal and had 3 wisdom teeth removed, yes I am ready to be done with all that!!!)
We have missed out on several scheduled visits with friends because after all our time here in the states, NOW it has decided to snow :) I have to admit that it is beautiful. I glanced outside tonight and it was just sparkling in the lights. God has made a beautiful creation with snow. Yesterday Mercy even said that it looked like a snow globe out the window. It is exciting for her to see this much snow! All that to say, we are sorry we missed seeing lots of you while we were home, but we are thankful that we were here during a time our family needed to be together. We will (hopefully) be leaving next week Wednesday as long as the weather cooperates, and then the real adventure of a lifetime begins once we get back to Lesotho for our final 2 year commitment.